Jane Knight
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IT'S ABOUT five hours into the packed flight to Dubai, a sleepless, wriggling, restless bundle of a child on my knee, when I really start doubting that this is going to work. None of the air crew has even acknowledged my son's existence except to dangle a special safety belt in his face, and there is no child-friendly meal either. In fact, there's no food for him at all.
I shouldn't have expected anything. As an under-2, Christian is flying virtually free, which on this BA flight at least, seems to make him a non-person. But that's exactly why we're stuck on this wretched plane in the first place - to have a last blast at free flights before his second birthday.
As that milestone brings with it the prospect of fares about 75 per cent of what adults pay, I wonder if we'll venture out of Europe again before he's 15.
I don't even want to go to Dubai - I visited when I was pregnant and felt that one visit to this desert Disneyland was quite enough. But when I started researching all those child-friendly hotels and consulting the crop of tour operators that has sprung up specialising in child travel (and what a dull, bland offering they had), I was stumped.
When you're looking for somewhere far enough away for winter sun but not so far that either the flight or jet lag become onerous, it's surprising how little there is. I ended up scratching through pretty much all the pages of my mental atlas: Caribbean (ridiculous time difference); South Africa (no time difference but hellishly long flight); the rest of Africa (malaria/health risk); Mauritius (fabulous childcare but just too far).
Elsewhere, children's clubs were closed outside the summer period, or didn't cater for two-year-olds; the Four Seasons Resort in Sharm el-Sheikh in Egypt sounded great until I found out that the kids' club is for the over-6s. So it was that I was left with Dubai - a seven-hour flight and only a three-hour time difference before the clocks went back - and somehow agreed to make it two nights in the desert followed by three on the beach.
As we roll up at the Bab Al Shams Desert Resort at 1am local time, Christian crashed out on a mound of cushions by reception as I check in, I am pretty sure I've made a huge mistake. But after a night in a room whose brown walls and stone floors are designed to look rustic but whose deliciously comfortable bed, power shower and yet more cushions give the necessary luxury, things start looking up.
We take one glance at the series of pools, ingeniously arranged to give child-friendly areas, shade under awnings and infinity edges looking over the dunes, and we're in the water, under the watchful gaze of a bevy of lifeguards. When we want a break, we move to Sinbad's Club, which has free morning childcare for the over-2s (and three helpers clucking over one baby who agree that the almost-2s count, too).
We move from play area to pool all day, wandering around this replica Arabian fort, which is tasteful rather than tacky - surprise rooftop terraces here, oases watered by trickling irrigation channels there.
But the pièce de résistance comes along at 4pm in a stinking, spitting, grunting guise. Free camel rides on the dunes by the pools is a masterstroke, as the line of children waiting their turn bear out. I wonder if Christian will be scared but, in the end, it is me who gets off feeling shaky after the 90-degree tilt when the camel stands and later sinks into the sand, and Christian who gets off chanting “more”.
I ignore this and we watch the falconry display as the sun dips beneath the dunes and the sudden evening chill descends.
I'm reluctant to leave this tranquil desert oasis, especially for the Jumeirah Beach Hotel, which I'd labelled on my previous visit to Dubai as big (600 rooms), brash and full of lots of swirly carpets.
What a difference a child makes: my opinion makes a sudden U-turn shortly after the 90-minute car journey. It seems that everything in this hotel revolves around children, from the free food for under-4s (over-4s pay half price) to the child toiletries and dressing gown in the room. The Wild Wadi Water Park is next door, and though it's mainly for older children, we take advantage of the hour hotel guests can enter before the park opens to the public to ride the river on inner tubes and bob around in the wave pool.
We are cossetted and cared for; Christian is acknowledged everywhere we go. One night I get a babysitter who looks after him while I enjoy a proper grown-up evening. Another night, he develops a fever and the hotel, which has a pharmacy in its row of shops, whisks up a paramedic, free of charge, to check on him. OTT? Perhaps, but it's also service with a capital S.
What really makes us feel special, though, is that we are staying in a premium leisure room. Actually, the room is the same as everyone else's - so spacious you could sleep a dozen without getting squashed, its floor-to-ceiling windows looking over the marina to the landmark hotel Burj Al Arab. But for about £130 extra, we have access to a special lounge, equipped with toys and PlayStations, which we frequent often, but especially for free afternoon tea as well as complimentary canapés and drinks in the evening.
We also have privileged access to one of the hotel's five pools, and a special section of the beach.
Strangely, the kids' club isn't great. Nor is it free. The advertised ratio is four children to one member of staff, but in the morning we spend there, I count six or seven children per staff member. Because it's outside with its own pool, some children get temporarily left behind when the supervised group moves on to another activity, although there is a lifeguard watching. The gate isn't supervised at all times either.
It's not the kind of place I want to leave Christian, but that doesn't matter. In the end, we are far too busy hopping on and off the golf buggies that take you round the grounds (a constant source of delight) from beach to restaurant, then visiting the various swimming pools where we paddle up to the bar to order cocktails of chocolate milkshake.
By the children's pool, while we gorge on free ice lollies brought to our sunbed, we meet the Fleming family from Walton-on-Thames, who are as impressed as we are. “I travel extensively around the area and this hotel is easily the most child-friendly and the best for families,” Brett Fleming says. He's right. Even the swirly carpets don't matter any more.
NEED TO KNOW
A six-night holiday in Dubai costs from £1,215 per adult and £125 for children with the Private Travel Company (020-7751 0880, www.theprivatetravelcompany.co.uk), staying three nights in a deluxe room at Bab Al Shams Desert Resort & Spa and three nights
in a premium leisure room at Jumeirah Beach Hotel. The price is based on two adults and one infant under 2 sharing and includes breakfast, private transfers and flights with British Airways. The cost of the same holiday with one adult and one infant sharing is £1,773 per adult and £125 per infant.
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